Michael Fassbender, you are a flawless man. Ridley Scott, you are a flawless director.
I’m just going to sit here consumed by my Alien universe feels.
Flawless men do not beat women.
Flawless. Men. DO. NOT. BEAT. WOMEN.
charges were dropped, the woman in question was known to have done this sort of thing before with famous, wealthy men.
…I stand corrected. And somewhat relieved.
You haven’t been corrected, actually. You’ve been informed of a new detail.
The fact that she dropped the charges means all of jack shit. Charges for real domestic abuse get dropped all the time even when the jackass isn’t famous and well-liked with a rabid fanbase quick to jump to his defense.
^^^^^^^ this is important
there’s also the matter that hes made at least one of his female co-stars uncomfortable as fuck with good reason.
“I actually said to him before we shot the spanking scenes, ‘If you touch me I will kill you’ and he did remind me that I was tied to a bed at the time and really I shouldn’t be making any threats. … [those scenes] weren’t particularly easy.”
fassbender isn’t flawless, he’s just attractive enough that people don’t give a fuck about him being a scumbag!
It really disgusts me people give men the benefit of the doubt over domestic abuse and rape victims (especially if they’re attractive and white). I don’t know about you, but I would rather falsely accuse a man who has been reported as having made women very uncomfortable repeatedly in the past of domestic abuse than risk siding with a someone who beats up their girlfriend.
Also, there was evidential photographs noted in the original article. She was probably so afraid and pressured by him and his crazy fanbase (who, like some above, claim she was doing it for the cash because lol shes a dumb slut right) that she dropped the charges. Shit like that happens ALL THE TIME. It is incredibly hard to get women to report abuse or rape; so many guys get away with shit like this because of the fear they instill and the rampant victim blaming that girl has to suffer.
Also, that second “source” (tumblr? are you fucking serious) is disgusting. LOL HERE IS SOME EVIDENTARY PROOF ANDREWS IS LYING ABOUT THE ABUSE - The guy she filed a restraining order against says they were still sleeping together
you just sourced an INCREDIBLY UNRELIABLE SOURCE to prove Andrews was an unreliable source
I think I’m going to dissect that entire “article” when I have some free time it’s making me so fucking mad. Jesus Christ.
One more time, for quality commentary.
yes, you read that right.
TIME TO KILL EVERYONE
Smashing my head on the table.
holy fucking shit.
This just in: Along with wearing provocative clothing, going out at night, talking to people etc. etc., women are now disallowed from eating in public.
Yeah and he claimed to be innocent.. then immediately went into reasoning why the rape would totally be justified because she was eating chicken x.x That should really be a huge red flag to anyone in that case…
Also, it links to MRA sites (TW For Victim Blaming, Slut Shaming, Rape Apologism, And Whole Lot of Misogyny in that article) for further reading, shocker. The victim blaming, rape enabling, slut shaming site affiliates itself with MRAs.
Also, in the comments section. “Men aren’t allowed to be sluts (sleazes), they aren’t allowed to even ask women out for a drink in an elevator without being considered creeps or sexual predators.”
From the guy who just spent an entire article telling women it’s their fault if they get raped because they can’t expect men not to treat them like sex objects if they wear something men don’t approve of. I don’t think it’s the women, buddy.
Most rapists don’t lurk in alleyways waiting for women to randomly walk by so they can jump them from out of the shadows and rape them. The vast majority of rapists will target a woman that they know. Most women are raped by a friend, a husband, a relative, etc…
Also, if you’re having sex with a woman and she becomes uncomfortable and tells you to stop, for any reason, you stop immediatly. Otherwise, it is rape. Flirting, drinking, and wearing a little dress doesn’t make a woman responsible for rape. The rapist is responsible and it’s his own god damned fault for ruining his life.
I have never wanted to kill someone before in my life.
I guess there really is a first time for everything.
What’s really scary is the fact that this is real and people actually think like this.
Fuck this comic, and fuck the guy who drew that.
1. I find it funny that you said “fuck the guy who drew that” is a post about rape. *shrug*
2. Anyone want to talk about the other point he made? The part about men being raped too? Or is that not allowed because it’s just a man, and all men are horrible beasts? Anyone? Bueller?
It’d be /oh so nice/ if men could make that point (even though it’s.. usually other dudes who are so reluctant to acknowledge male victims of rape in the first place) /without/ victim blaming, slut shaming, and just generally sounding like rape apologists (he is the one who framed men as ‘horrible beasts’ who apparently can’t control themselves around short skirts). Aka If they did it while not silencing women.
But ‘funnily’ enough you don’t seem too concerned about that. Shocker.
TW for rape, victim-blaming, gross injustice, cops doing whatever the fuck they want
Where juries and lawyers /bend over backwards/ to find any possible way to doubt the victim, even dwelling on completely irrelevant points that don’t mean shit.. to protect a rapist. To dismiss, to blame the victim (how dare you not remember the color of that car while you were going through a traumatic event), to excuse this. That article even points out that there was another case like this one very recently involving cops. And people are still fucking going on about how rape enabling culture doesn’t exist?
Currently in an argument with the person who posted this on facebook. Oh tumblr, you make me feel so normal sometimes I forget that people actually make fun of this stuff.
alex she is probably lying. i know lots of women get raped and its terrible but the simple thing is that lots of girls now a days go to a party, get drunk, sleep around, and then claims its rape cause they feel bad. i know plenty of girls like this.
1) guys do the same thing but when we do it we cant say its rape
2) if you are drinking with people you cant trust then… YOU ARE A FUCKING IDIOT. if you do this you’re looking for some kind of trouble.
3) this girl ^^^ even said on her paper that she drank too much, flirted too much, and wore short shorts (the shorts i dont care thats not important) YOU HAD A BOYFRIEND
if you are one of the girls i mentioned dont call it rape. it was you AND the guy BOTH being stupid
Ladies dont get me wrong though. If you was raped i am truly sorry for you a guy should never do that but do not blindly support girls that go to parties, sleep around, and claim rape. Make smart decisions i know a lot of you can.
Reblogging this for obvious wtf-ery at the commentary AND THE PICTURE above.
I AM GOING CROSSEYED WITH RAGE
I am so sick of seeing this!
I should be allowed to go outside in a bikini, thong, short skirt, short shorts, literally any kind of provocative clothing and have the males around me be capable of controlling their penises
How do you interpret short shorts as a ‘fuck me’ sign
If I have a boyfriend and I’m flirting and drinking too much, that’s me being a bitch and cheating, not asking for a traumatic experience that will haunt me for the rest of my life because some asshole could not control his genitalia.
And why is it interpreted that girls use rape as an excuse like what why who would do that and why are the majority of girls blamed for this you know that this is how cops look at it right a girl gets raped and no one believes her because she was wearing short shorts or was drunk like what
I’m actually agreeing with David. It does happen more often than not. Although the girl in the picture was actually raped, girls lie about being raped to get out of trouble all the time. I know like six of them that have done it.
Yeah I’ve seen way too many girls who just use ‘rape’ as the go-to when they fuck someone they didn’t want to. Rape happens, it sucks, I’ve been there, but I’m sorry. There is a difference from being held down and trying to fight your way to freedom while someone fucks you, and getting drunk and thinking fucking some guy doesn’t sound like a bad idea and then waking up in the morning and going “shit.”
In fact, I think shit like this is what hurts the case for actual rape victims. “Rape” is starting to become synonymous with “I didn’t like the outcome of that so I never consented in the first place.” Even being talked and pressured into it when you don’t want it is rape. Feeling bad cause you cheated on your man at a party? Not rape. Sorry, bro.
What is this, the justifying misogyny hour or something?
No, creeper, ‘forcible’ (all rape is forced anyway but.. moving on) rape is not the only kind of rape. Which was clearly your implication. The important element of rape is consent. Initiating sexual contact on someone who is drunk and so is therefore not legally or genuinely able to consent.. is rape. I know, how horrible, you might have to actually fucking think about what you do to others and you can’t blame them for what /you/ did to them.
Victim blaming bullshit and a complete misunderstanding of consent hurts the ‘actual cases’ for rape victims. And spreading myths that false accusations are common does too (highest percentage of those has been 8 to 10 percent, pretty much the same as every other crime, and even those numbers are probably even lower due to poor investigations of rape by cops) The shit you and a bunch of others are doing right now. Oh and calling women whores for the way they dress probably doesn’t help either since that sort of sounds like rape enabling (cause, really, if you’re calling them that for what they wear, how will you treat them? Yeah).
And for all of this disbelieve your claims of ‘seeing too many girls’ who supposedly falsely accuse, because you don’t even know what consent and therefore rape is in the first fucking place. Cause remember, it’s not okay to ‘blindly support’ women, but blindly supporting potential rapists without any facts or critical thought is A.OK. Right?
What and absolutely glorious, righteous rant. I grabbed my laptop, ran outside and read it loudly to the Universe, with a loud “Right On!” at the end.
Geraldo Rivera said Friday he would “bet money” that Trayvon Martin wouldn’t have been fatally shot if the teenager hadn’t been wearing a hoodie, and the Fox News host’s comments immediately drew a fierce response
“I am urging the parents of black and Latino youngsters particularly to not let their children go out wearing hoodies,” Rivera said on “Fox & Friends.” “I think the hoodie is as much responsible for Trayvon Martin’s death as George Zimmerman was.”
I think the person who stalked, chased down, and murdered a 17 year old was the one responsible for Trayvon Martin’s death. I think the racist mindset that black people Existing in certain clothes is reason enough to murder them (or imply the, y’know, /dead person/ is partially responsible) is responsible for Trayvon Martin’s death. Not an article of fucking clothing. It’s not the hoodie, it’s that you associate the hoodie with black people, it’s your own internalized racism.
“When you see a black or Latino youngster, particularly on the street, you walk to the other side of the street. You try to avoid that confrontation,” Rivera continued. “Trayvon Martin, God bless him, an innocent kid, a wonderful kid, a box of Skittles in his hands. He didn’t deserve to die. But I bet you money, if he didn’t have that hoodie on, that nutty neighborhood watch guy wouldn’t have responded in that violent and aggressive way.”
When you say what Trayvon was wearing was ‘as much responsible’ for the way Zimmerman reacted then yes you are precisely saying that he deserved to die for being black while wearing a hoodie and this somehow made Zimmerman murder him. It gives no responsibility to that murderer, it seeks to justify his actions and sends the message that violence against black people is acceptable, that being black is a death sentence, as long as they don’t toe an imaginary line set by racists. It sounds like people who think like Rivera and Fox News are the ones who need to be avoided in the streets, they’re actively endorsing violent bigotry.
ifyougiveamouse asked you:
No, I didn’t say anything about victim blaming, and no victim was blamed. So I don’t know why you would put those words in my mouth. What I am saying is it isn’t very fair for two people to go to bed under the influence and for one person to wake up and say that since they regretted it and they wouldn’t normally do it had they not been under the influence, that therefore it is a rape. There is rape, and there is also not rape. The distinction should be made before condoning ruining lives.
I don’t know how I could say this any more clearly.
Sex without consent is rape.
Intoxicated people cannot consent.
Logically, sex with an intoxicated person would be rape. I don’t personally believe that all sexual encounters that occur when drinking have to be classified as rape. But when a person’s reaction to their experience is more severe than regret, which clearly it is when a person is saying they have emotional distress, suicidal thoughts, etc, and they confirm these feelings are linked to the sexual encounter that happened when they were legally unable to give consent, it is by no means a stretch of the imagination to classify it correctly, as rape.
Given the propensity to self-blame, to qualify, to not recognize rape when it occurs, there are not great numbers of people claiming to have been raped who have not. This is an actual fact. Rape does not have higher false report rate than any other crime.
So for you to sit there and act like people are lying about their experiences because they regret consensual sex, is victim blaming. You are essentially claiming that people “cry rape” to pawn a bad decision off on someone else. This is not true. It’s not supported by statistics. It’s not supported by the law, which is clear in saying intoxicated people cannot give consent. And I have not had one story submitted to this blog that I thought was a false rape claim.
You are casting aspersions on real survivors who have been raped in situations like these. That disgusts me. If you’d like to continue doing it, you can do so on your own tumblr. I’m not giving you the platform to do it.
Every single time I read this argument I feel a gaping hole in it. Intoxicated people cannot consent. On the one hand we say that intoxicated people don’t have the mental coherency to make an informed choice. On the other, when both people are drunk, we say that being intoxicated doesn’t absolve you of the choice you made to have sex with another drunk person. If one intoxicated person can say they wouldn’t have done X thing if sober and use that as the basis for putting the responsibility on the other person, then so can the other.
I would LOVE to say that women are always 100% in the right in all situations - that if they say they wouldn’t have done it sober, it’s rape. I would love that. But logically it does not follow. With the situation being that both people enthusiastically consented while drunk, either intoxication is a valid reason for both of them to be absolved of responsibility, or neither of them.
Consent only matters on the one being acted upon. If I did not give you consent to act upon me, like in a sexual sense, and you initiate it then yes that’s rape. Genuine, legal consent cannot be given while drunk. It doesn’t mean anything. It seems more like you’re willfully misunderstanding this than anything else. The other /can’t/ use it that way because the other was the one who acted in the first place. That is the actual important choice.
No one ever said that women are always right in all situations, your overblown exaggeration is unnecessary (after all, women have raped men in this manner before, as has already been said). The responsibility lies with the person who inflicted trauma, mental or otherwise, on another party (which would have to be considerable if they go so far as to feel it grounds for reporting rape in the first friggin’ place). That is not something you simply get absolved of responsibility for.
I’m not willfully misunderstanding this. You’re saying that consent cannot be given while drunk. And why is that? Because being drunk compromises your mental ability to judge the situation. When both people are drunk, that applies to both of them. He is just as incapable of giving consent as she is. He could just as easily claim rape. There is a big difference between that and a sober person having sex with a drunk person.
Honestly this is so obvious that I can’t believe it’s even an argument.
No, it doesn’t apply to both of them. Because in that you leave no responsibility for anyone acting upon someone.. because they’re drunk. Ridiculous. Does that mean physical abuse is okay too? Well I was drunk at the time so I guess so. The hypothetical dude can’t ‘easily claim rape’ if he initiated it by, say, putting his penis in someone because it was convenient at the time. :\ There’s only one rapist in that situation. Even if he was drunk, that does not free him from responsibility of physically acting upon someone else.
Saying something you wouldn’t while drunk? Okay, believable. Acting upon someone else, that brings them considerable trauma (which rape does) on them in the future? Inexcusable. And if they believe you did this strongly enough, then they have every right to make a claim of rape. I can’t believe it’s an argument either.
(And, again, consent /only matters for the person being acted upon/. Because they would have to give consent of the action, and yeah, you cannot genuinely, legally give consent while drunk.)