why is someone’s pregnancy even a public thing like
going up to a stranger and being all ‘WHEN ARE YOU DUE’
What’s even creepier is the idea people get in their heads to touch a woman while pregnant to ‘feel the baby’. Yeah well, you’re also touching the woman carrying said baby and she didn’t give her permission to be accosted asshole, now hands off.
Actually, I’m gonna add some commentary, cause some of these notes…
“women are not a species of goddesses who are above reality get over yourselves shit like this blatantly sodomizes reality and I’m done with it”
Hold on, lemme get my douchebag translator out.
Translation: How dare you demand your physical space be respected and not treated like public property! This scares me, let me wildly exaggerate to justify my actions.
“Yeeeeaaah, if I think a woman might be pregnant and I feel like asking, I’m going to ask. Fuck your chart.”
Translation: I feel like it’s my Right to ask you invasive questions, even though it’s your body and really none of my business. I’m such a rebel!
If I get pregnant, I will get an abortion. And you don’t get to tell me that it’s wrong.
Posts like this give the anit-choicers fuel. Abortion isn’t something that should be taken lightly. It is an important decision. You are deciding if…
I would take friendlyangryfeminist’s side here. If this was any other type of potential future decision that someone was similarly emphatic about, would they necessarily be perceived as “taking the situation lightly” or treating it not as “an important decision” simply because they know what their answer is/would be? Who exactly is giving fuel to the opposition here by basically saying we all need to follow a script of pretend emotions and waffling that we don’t all universally feel in order to be seen as “acceptable” in terms of needing reproductive health access??
If I said, “If I get pregnant, I know I will keep it and you can’t tell me not to,” is anyone’s first response going to be “But wait you should at least pretend to consider abortion otherwise it’s giving the other side fuel, stop treating this subject as if it’s a joke” ?? Responses like this only feed fuel to the opposition by assuming that there is a link between wanting an abortion, and being completely unserious/treating it like it’s game at a party.
In all honesty my response is probably the same. I don’t think I will ever be in a position to be considering it, but if it happened anytime soon, there really is no point in pretending I would consider alternatives. I wouldn’t, and I know I wouldn’t. I would agree that a lot of times the dialogue used to discuss these topics is unnecessarily distancing and whatever, but I don’t think this is one of those times.
Too often there’s this push to create and present the single story of a person who is pregnant and faces dire consequences if they stay pregnant/have a child, and who goes through a ton of agony over the decision, does it, and then feels bad for a while. But not everyone’s experience is like that- and to say that their experience has to be painted that way in order for the movement to be taken seriously does not actually help anyone, I don’t think.
I knew long before that second line on the test that I’d be getting an abortion. I took it as seriously I would getting a root canal. I booked it, I turned up, I had it done. It did not need agonising over. And after the abortion, my partner and I went shopping in London, because it really wasn’t traumatic or hard or anything negative. Hardest decision was which clinic to go to and hardest part of the day was not being allowed to eat beforehand. And fuck the pro choice people who pander to the other side and refuse to acknowledge that some of us really don’t see it as a big scary hard decision.
^ this is how easy it would be for me too. Hollllla.
I never really thought about it that way, actually. It actually singles out abortion in a negative way instead of treating it like any other medical decision.
After consulting with Doctors, Danielle and her husband decided that it would be more humane to terminate the pregnancy than allow the fetus to be born, only to die shortly thereafter. Attorneys, however, informed her that this wasn’t possible:
After consulting attorneys, doctors told Deaver and her husband that the Nebraska law prohibited an abortion in their case. She had to wait, give birth, and watch the infant die.
Nebraska’s new abortion law forced Danielle Deaver to live through ten excruciating days, waiting to give birth to a baby that she and her doctors knew would die minutes later, fighting for breath that would not come. And that’s what happened. The one-pound, ten-ounce girl, Elizabeth, was born December 8th. Deaver and husband Robb watched, held and comforted the baby as it gasped for air, hoping she was not suffering. She died 15 minutes later.
To give you some grounding info, the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists has stated that there is zero evidence that a fetus can feel pain at 20 weeks of gestation, and notes that there is no legitimate evidence demonstrating that a fetus can feel pain in the weeks thereafter.
But if we assume arguendo that a fetus can feel pain, then that means that the fetus experienced more pain during the 10 days it was being crushed to death by Danielle Deaver’s uterus (as a result of not having an amniotic sac to cushion its body), than it ever would have if the pregnancy had been terminated shortly after Danielle’s water broke. The law caused more harm than it alleviated underneath its own premise.
Alaska State Rep. Apologizes For “Permission Slip” Comment—Kinda, Sorta, Not Really
by Robin Marty
Last week, Alaskan State Representative Alan Dick said he would have a “little more peace” with allowing a woman to terminate a pregnancy if the man who fathered the child signed off on the decision first.
Now, he’s apologizing for the “insensitive” comment. Except really, he isn’t.
Via the Fairbanks News Miner:
“Last week in a committee hearing on funding of abortions, I made a less than artful comparison,” he wrote in a statement. “I have received several phone calls from women who were offended. I’ve listened to what they said. I realize how what I said could be taken to be hurtful — it was for the women who called — and I apologize.
In terms of his position, though, Dick said he’s still unapologetically opposed to abortion but will be more careful about what he says in the future.
“I have reconsidered my thoughts in light of the comments from those who called and will be more careful in how I phrase my thoughts in the future,” he said.
Apology? Not at all. He just said that next time he’ll make sure to say it with more tact.
How to contact Alan Dick:
Phone: 907-465-4527 or 1-800-491-4527
See, the problem was that he hurt our feelings, not that he completely disrespects our decision-making abilities, has absolutely no knowledge of abusive relationships or rape, and apparently, now, still can’t grasp any of those ideas.
‘I’m still trying to take your rights over your own body away.. but i’ll do it more /politely/ next time.’ o_o Hooray.
Protect Pregnant Women: Free Bei Bei! (Petition)
Petition: Protect Pregnant Women: Free Bei Bei!
I don’t usually get into the whole “Tumblr Justice!1” thing, but I can’t stand by for this one.
In short, a pregnant woman, Bei Bei Shuai, was lied to by her boyfriend, Zhiliang Guan, in regards to his marital status. He led her on throughout 8 months of her pregnancy and then abandoned her rather abruptly. He drove her to suicide. Her attempted suicide -a result of depression- resulted in her baby dying. Now she is facing up to 65 years in prison or the death penalty for “feticide”. I think most would agree that words cannot describe how fucked up this is, so please sign the petition addressed to Terry Curry, the man prosecuting this innocent woman.